What is Shame?
Shame is the lowest level of consciousness on the scale that Dr. David Hawkins created.
Shame – (1-20/1000) – Despair
People that embody shame who are dominantly at this level of consciousness are experiencing severe humiliation and embarrassment.
People who are at the level of shame wind up becoming paranoid, so they sometimes kill people. Other times they commit suicide. People at a 10-20 consciousness level will also end up committing crimes such as rape, and often become moral extremists.
Think of people who join terrorist organizations. They are at this level of consciousness. Elliott Rodger was a school shooter from 2014, he was a prime example of someone who was at the lowest level of consciousness.
People who vibe at this level of consciousness are always filled with hatred.
Shame is behind the fear of rejection, disapproval or failure.
People who are stuck at this hellish level have often experienced severe abuse or neglect. They will never be honest enough to take any responsibility for their state. Shameful people always see themselves as the victim. Unless the persons child-hood issues are resolved through therapy or coaching, their personality will be ruined for life. Shame produces neurosis.
Shame is often a way to inflict cruelty. Children who are ashamed get shamed by others. They will often inflict cruelty towards animals and other children. Bullies are insecure and they bully people who make for easy targets. Often bullies are bullied by worse bullies. People who are ashamed are at risk to develop health issues. Level consciousness 10-20 represents a very shy and introverted person. They also insult themselves often.
People who have consciousness in the 10-20’s are dangerous, they will have accusatory hallucinations some of the time. They are likely to have paranoid delusions along with their shame. These people can become psychotic and commit terrible crimes.
Sometimes shame based individuals compensate for their shame through perfectionism.
Severe depression can be a dangerous and immobile level of consciousness. Despair is characterized by having no hope and feeling helpless to make their life better. This state is a dis-spiritual state and hellish to endure. The will to live is totally lost, and the thought of suicide is sometimes not possible due to a lack of energy. The reason anti-depressants can lead a person to commit suicide is because they elevate a shameful persons state up to a level above apathy. With this extra energy, depressed people are more likely to end their life.
Shame is reflective of self-hatred and when turned outward can result in homicidal ideation and action. It’s noticeable that many classmate shooters were on anti-depressants. Depression changes the brains chemistry, and neurotransmitters such as serotonin are much lower in a depressed person. Severe-depression makes a person more vulnerable to alcoholism. Many people with depression have recovered by eliminating sugar.
At the bottom of despair, there is exhaustion and even a far weaker will to live. It’s often only in the deepest pits of hell that one can surrender their ego. In extreme agony, a call for help to God can lead to a great transformation. Heaven and hell are an inch apart.
The Dualities of Shame
Attractions & Aversions
Self-Punishment Vs Self-Forgiveness
Depression Vs Choosing Life
Judgmental Vs Surrendering to God’s Mercy
Negativity Vs Letting Go of Position
Hiding Vs Being Visible
Self-worthlessness Vs Affirming the Gift of Life
Rigid Self-view Vs Flexibility
Condemnation Vs Forgiveness
Mortification Vs Choosing Self-Worth
Denigrate Vs Honoring Self
Hate Vs Forgiveness
Severe Vs Benign
Self-Blame Vs Blame ego’s Ignorance
Exaggerate Faults Vs Transcend Limitations
Partial Selective View Vs Balanced Overall View
Self as Loser Vs Self as Corrected
End of the Road Vs New Beginning
Unlovable Vs Worth as a Child of God
Error Unforgivable Vs Error as Lesson
Narcissistic Orientation Vs Concern for Others
Serve Self Vs Serve Life
Indulgent Self-Evaluation Vs Letting Go of the Ego’s Position
Self as Center of Life Vs Self as a Participant of Life
Should Have Vs Not Able Then
This extensive list covers some opposing states of being and outlook, people who have shame will always see the worst from reality. Guilt has no place in a happy person’s soul. Shame is very destructive and can only be solved with intensive help from a qualified therapist. Life coaches shouldn’t work with people who are in a state of shame.
Love and empathy towards people at this level is paramount. Compassion is more helpful than giving a person in this state advice. Best way to help is to do the following 4 things. These will make the person feel better.
- Shut up
- Don’t Fix
- Don’t Judge
This is all for this article.
Until next time,